To the writer of this article – if you would like to give me a name, I will add attribution accordingly.
I am so glad that you describe your relationship is a dominative one – I get a bit despondent when I read posts that seem to assume that it is about physical control (spanking, etc.) so it is lovely to see that this misapprehension is not universal.
The love and respect you have for each other speaks volumes. So often, couples treat one another with casual disrespect, taking the view that one should be able to be rude to those to whom one is closest. But while I do think there should be room for fun and a little (kind) joke now and again, as Tevemer has said, often, that is not what is really happening. Often, the jokes are snide and the underlying attitude is contempt. One of the things I love about it is the high level of love and respect that there seems to be between individuals in relationships.