Punishment and reward

I do not agree that punishment has to be involved in relationship. It is quite possible for a woman to have submissive inclinations without any desire for punishment of any kind. Wanting a man to be in charge does not mean you have to want him to punish you. Bramble, for example, is a woman who is happy for her husband to be HOH, but without any punishment being involve in the relationship. Even in the days when it was assumed that a man would be HOh in a marriage, I don't think punishment was generally considered a normal part of the relationship. It is an optional, not compulsory feature of a relationship.